This week’s blog is from our amazing coach, Liam. He discusses finding the balance between parenthood and finding time for yourself.
My life through the first 12 months of my son’s life have been spent in absolute awe of him. Parenting wasn’t completely new to me (I spent a lot of time helping out with my little brother and sister) but the idea that this was MY child was such a new concept to me. Literally everything I did, every decision I made revolved around him. Beren is such a well behaved baby and I needed to make sure that every need he had was met, that he was always happy and had as much time with Dad as he wanted.
In our modern lifestyles, we always have more to do. Most families have 2 working parents and I’m sure a lot of us struggle with marrying up the needs of our kids with our own needs and wants. It is very easy to fall into the trap of giving your kids priority in every situation, sacrificing your own wellbeing for theirs. For me, I would often cancel training sessions to be with my son. Work obviously can’t be skipped, but the gym can and so it very quickly and quietly became common practice for me to not go to the gym for days at a time to be with him. Sound familiar?
It’s important to think about these things from the right angle. Family time is so important. Relationships are the some of the most valuable things we can have in life. You cannot forget about your own well-being though! Working out has such positive effects on all aspects of your life and skipping it over and over again send your mindset in the opposite direction. I would find that suddenly I had not been to the gym all week and when I did get there, before the class had even started, I would be asking myself “why am I even bothering?”
Your emotional well-being is as important as your child. I still find this hard to grasp, the idea that I am as important as my son. But it’s true! You have to nurture them and provide for them, and they in turn need to fit your routine and you need to allow yourself to be the number 1 priority sometimes! Reading it is common sense but acting on it can be hard. I’ve found it a little easier lately by saying to myself “what kind of example do I want to set my son?” I want him to see me as a hard worker who cares for others and who loves his family, and I also want him to see I value myself and make the time I have work for ALL of the things that are important to me.