The Merriam-Webster definition of confidence is “…a feeling that someone or something is good or has the ability to succeed at something…” That seems fairly broad, so why do so many of us feel like we lack it? More importantly: how do we go about building confidence in ourselves and in others?
Breaking down your goals into manageable and realistic steps really helps to give a sense of achievement. “I want to get fit” is a sweeping statement that can become overwhelming very easily. Instead, be real about what your starting point is. If you currently do push ups on your knees aim for doing full push ups within a certain time frame (be sensible here- 1 week is probably a bit unlikely). If it’s running that you’re struggling with, aim for one more lamp post each time you run. Consistency is the key to this one.
Remind yourself of how far you’ve come.
What can you do this month that you felt you couldn’t do a month ago? Quite often we don’t notice what we’ve already achieved. Did you double your kettlebell weight in less than three months? Can you run more than 100 metres before wanting to die? These are things to celebrate. Just imagine where you will be if you keep going!
How can we expect others to believe in us if we don’t believe in ourselves? By following the first two steps you can remind yourself of how well you’re doing and push yourself to go even further because what’s 30 more seconds, or 5 more push ups? Keep encouraging yourself to improve – even if it’s just by one more rep.
Feeling like you belong somewhere is a powerful thing. To walk into a space and feel comfortable enough to say hello, make eye contact, and smile at a stranger can sometimes feel like the biggest hurdle you’ll face for the day. Having a community around you who will support you and believe in you on the days when the hurdle seems too high is an important part of learning to believe in yourself.
Surround yourself with people who lift you up.
Negativity breeds negativity. Find people who genuinely want to see you succeed – these can be friends, family members, workmates, team mates, or people from your CrossFit box. Support those around you as well. You might just find that encouraging others helps you to be your own best cheerleader.